Are you in love or simply living in your comfort zone?
So you are in love. Is this person in one, or are they? The funny thing about love is that it can change. It can grow into something even more lovely than when it started, and other times fall stale and barely exist. When it grows it is great, but when the love is gone do you know when to say when? Let’s weigh all of them and figure this one out.
Butterfly
I’ve been told that butterflies are exaggerated. Do not believe. There’s nothing quite like a twinge of joy at the thought of being around someone. We’ve all experienced those vibes early in the dating process. Constantly thinking about that person and all the things that give him a headache. You’re now past the initial dating phase, and do not feel the creeps like you used to. This could be one of several things. If you feel that just the joy of dating someone new is making you nervous, then you need to take this seriously. Is everything a bit messy, and there is nothing more about this person really doing things for you? Have you frequently thought that you would be just as happy, if not happier when you came back out there and saw what you missed? Then maybe you should leave this alone, because it sounds like you have gotten a little snug with it and it will not take much to get away from it all. If you feel things have leveled off a bit, but still consider this person, you smile, or consider how you enjoyed their company, their laugh, how strange it’s that they had sugar in their spaghetti, but you like whatever. make them, them….then that means your butterfly has matured into a cult, absolutely a step forward.
Alone time is time well spent
Remember wanting to all the time do everything together? Ummm… not so much now? Well, there’s nothing wrong with hanging out with the guys for a bit, or having an epic girls’ night out, but it is how you feel during your time apart that can determine whether this is love, otherwise you’re too snug to be redeemed just yet. If during your time apart you end up feeling like you have found the newfound freedom you have been missing in your life and now you can finally breathe… maybe that’s a sign that this relationship is not for you. If you spent the night having an awesome time, but cannot wait to share the events of the night with your partner, and share with them what an awesome time you had… well, that means that you are thinking about them and thinking about your partner while really enjoying yourself is the thing. which is incredible, and something to hold on to.
Every little thing you do
Habits… most people have them, right? How much you can tolerate your partner’s habits can determine how deep your love is. If your partner is doing things out of pure habit that are driving you up the wall, and even making you reconsider your commitment to the relationship, this “ding-ding-ding” again, may not be the best fit for you. Especially if living without them sounds better to you than dealing with their singing in the car, or how they like to sleep with the tv on. These little things can be worked out or worked out if you really love someone, and if you do not feel like they’re worth the effort, then it is absolutely time to move on. Think about it, when in love, there are times when you do not even notice your partner’s quirks, because what makes them different sometimes makes you love them more… besides, what are your habits that make them love you enough? through?
Bottom line all
Really taking the time to look at each of this stuff will absolutely help you weigh your dedication to your relationship and to see if you are in it for the right reasons. Also, do not watch for the signs and continue not showing your true feelings, because if you do not plan on ending the relationship, but only plan to deal with it some other time, it is not the fairest thing to do to your partner. . If you have seen this stuff, and you are both in love, just like when you started reading, then incredible to you and this is real love.