When we have a problem, say alcoholism, it is very easy to neglect ourselves in every way. We may think ‘well, if I was worthy, I would not be a victim of this problem.’ The same problem can be felt in drug addicts, who often feel that repeated relapses are part of their often flawed character, virtually as if they would do this irrespective of whether the drug was around or not.
However, it does not matter whether you have this sort of problem or not, it is also very easy to let negative situations in life like this drive you into a corner. Not only does this feel terrible, but it can make the problem grow exponentially. For example, if being abused by someone we consider a friend, we may blame ourselves for bothering him.
Realizing your hidden brilliance underneath can let you burn through the dead wood that surrounds your personality. And, learning it can be probably the most powerful things you do for yourself, at least in recent memory. Let us help you get there, and potentially develop more confident acts of self-care. you deserve it.
Never Think You Can’t Be Helped
You do not lose when you fail, but you lose when you give up. Also, you are doomed if you think you can never win, no matter how many people help you. Have you ever heard the expression ‘You can not help someone who will not help themselves?’ This is among the saddest yet truest phrases that family after family has to internalize when trying to help a relative get out of the clutches of drug addiction, or something similar. The change can start from yourself. Never think you are helpless, because that’s very hypocritical. If you think you are beyond help, you assume you are essentially broken and your judgment never will be restored. Well, if your judgment can never be recovered, what made you so certain about the indisputable fact that you cannot? Surely that would be a possibility? Maybe a addiction treatment center or accepting you have a problem can be the first drop of a waterfall that comes to heal you. Thinking like this can sometimes save lives.
Give Yourself More Credit
Even those who have made bad decision after bad decision can easily neglect themselves, and then fall into that negative personality without a care. It’s important to give yourself more credit. You possibly have at least something about you worth protecting, even by your own defective standards. You might find that you really care about other people, or that making people laugh is one of your favourite things. You’ve also had your worst day so far. It also contributes to:
Imagine an old, agoraphobic woman who hasn’t left her house in ten years. He felt ashamed of this. But then, he got help. Little by little he made his way out of the door. Then, a few steps. Then, with the help of a therapist, maybe she can go shopping for the first time. Was the version of him shopping that new person? No, that’s it. It’s at all times been a potential in him. He just hasn’t revealed it yet. You even have many hidden treasures in your personality. You just need to work for them.
With these suggestions, we hope you can feel motivated to live as your best self.