I believe I lived my best sex life in my 20s. They say rear view is 20/20 and “they” could not be more right. I look back at the entire mess I call my 20s, and here are the top 5 reasons why sex is so far better now.
Body Insecurities
I spent too much time believing in my insecurities about how my body appeared. I seriously thought about what the guy thought of me, when to be honest, guys my age would most likely plug in the keyhole if they fit. Thank goodness for maturity. In my 40s, my body came with its take it or leave it wrapper. I’m confident in my body, because I feel snug in my own skin.
Little Enjoyment
I never really enjoyed sex in my 20s. It was an thrilling time, but orgasms were few and far between, and if I wasn’t pleased, I never said I wasn’t. I may have played a part in some inflated egos that had no business, so to my fellow women, my sincerest apologies. I did not understand how to communicate, when in my 20s, my needs weren’t being met. In my 40s, all I did was communicate, about why certain meetings weren’t needed, or why I believed I was being overcharged, all things I actually did not want to speak about, so expressing to a man that wasn’t enough. place comes easily.
Know My Body
OK, expressing myself in my 20s is one problem, but really knowing what my body responds to, is another problem fully. Sex in your 20s is stuffed with plenty of trying to figure it out. I do not know what worked for me and what did not. I know what works for me now, and I’m certainly open to trying certain new things, but a decade of trial and error has been discontinued, and fortunately it did.
Who Have Sex With
If you were not in a relationship in your 20s, then this is all the time a problem. I want to have sex, but a man at that age may not be ready for a committed relationship. Then once you decide to have sex there’s too much thinking about whether he will call. Thank God for my 40s because, whether someone calls or not, I still must go to work the next day, and ensure my bills are paid. Basically, I’m saying as a grown woman you realize that life goes on, and sex is so far better when you do not have a million thought bubbles stuffed with “what ifs” floating over your head.
Knowing How to Connect
Sex is more than simply you, but try to explain it to a 20 year old. Connection to another individual is what takes sex to the next level. I did not fully understand that in my 20s, but it is really something to appreciate at this phase of my life. Little did I know that the physical aspect of sex was only scratching the surface.
Sex in your 40s
Finally, at 40 we do what we love. Insecurities about our bodies, aren’t any longer a problem during sex. What our relationship status will be like is no longer a criterion for us. Women are more empowered once we reach our 40s. What other people think of us no longer matters or does not matter at all. We do what pleases us, and that particularly applies to sex. So, all hail the 40’s. Miss, we have arrived.
