You and your partner already realize this is the time to tie a knot. Happy! But before you start the entire wedding planning process of finding the right clothes, food, music, invitations, and more, you should set aside some time to have some important discussions. It’s easy to get carried away and overlook some important details for your wedding. That’s why it arrived 55% couples in one study cited incompatibility as the reason for their divorce. Here are some important conversations you need to have before all the thrill begins:
- Sex
Sex plays a vital role in marriage because it deepens your bond with your partner and creates intimate moments where you can share love. This is also a sensitive topic and can be very embarrassing to bring up. However, if you are in a healthy relationship, talking about certain cringe-inducing topics with your partner should not be a problem.
Most counselors or therapists encourage couples to express curiosity and interest in knowing their partner’s sexual preferences before marriage. This gives you an idea of what you can include in your relationship. You should not embarrass or make your partner feel bad for having a particular preference. Instead, discuss ways you can unify your choices and preferences.
You can even discuss past sexual relationships, how to make your partner feel safe if you’re the victim of assault, and your hopes for the future. Creating mutual understanding about your views on sex will play a valuable role in your marriage.
- Raising a family
If it hasn’t appeared, you need to have this conversation as quickly as possible. You should know about your attitude and your partner about having kids in the future. But it does not must end there!
If you both comply with have kids in the next few years, you need to discuss the potential impact of what could occur if one of you changes your mind. You will also need to discuss how you plan to raise your kids and whether your parenting techniques and styles will align. Of course, all of this stuff are subject to change, but it helps offer you an idea of what to expect.
You should also discuss the likelihood of not having kids and what other options will be available to you and your partner? Will they be open to such medical treatment complete testosterone replacement therapy, in-vitro fertilization, or intrauterine insemination? These are all topics that you need to cover in order to avoid future problems in your marriage.
- Your career and finances
Almost 48% married couples say they largely argue with their partners about money, whether or not they spend too much or too little. Your finances and career can be a potential source of tension and stress in your home. You should discuss it now to avoid future stress.
Make sure you choose the best financial option for you. Will you keep your earnings individually or open a joint account? It would be better to determine which accounts you need for day-to-day use and which for giant investments. If one of you likes to spend more than the other, you must find some middle ground about how to spend your money in a way that satisfies both of you.
In the same vein, you should also discuss your career plans. How do you see yourself growing in your career? Does promotion mean moving? It’s important to align your expectations with reality to minimise friction in your marriage.
- Religious beliefs
Besides sex, religious beliefs are another awkward discussion with your partner. However, it’s one you should never put off, particularly if one of you or both of you are religious. Before you have this conversation, both of you should know your stance on religion. This may not be a big deal to you now, but it might surprise you when you find out.
Religion is a really sensitive topic. That’s why you must keep an open mind and respect your partner’s views in discussions. You may not share the same beliefs and still love one another. As long as you are open to finding a setting that works for both of you, you’ll achieve success. It’s also an excellent way to see how religion can fit into your big day and whether it matters to the two of you.
Preparing and getting married is an thrilling time for couples. However, you should not forget to discuss what’s really important to help sustain your marriage after your big day.
