I’ve been in relationships where trust has been compromised. Many of us have. Whether it is just being given deceptive information on purpose, or being fully cheated on, this situation can really put you at a serious crossroads about what to do in a relationship. When you know that your relationship won’t ever turn out the way it was meant to be, because of what has happened, is a strong realization.
Forgiving and forgetting, and forgetting it, has been given to us since we were baby girls. It has been woven into society for ladies as a way of life. I do not have to buy into the entire concept. The idea goes as far as personal healing, yes obviously it does, but for the sake of letting people not be held accountable, no, I disagree.
What people do to you after you put your heart and trust in them, can determine the way your relationship will take. I like to call it your relationship journey. Think of it like the books we read as kids, and that I know that I’m dating myself here, but in these books, you must make a decision. One decision sends you to page 7 and another sends you to page 18. Every decision affects every outcome, and in contrast to this book, you cannot return if you do not like where your choices have taken you. Once someone’s trust is broken, no matter how positive you feel about someone, you must admit that you would love that person more if they did not hurt you and let you down. It does not matter how great your relationship is, the idea of how big it’s will all the time be there, whether you consider it or not. Depending on how deep the wound is, moving on with a somewhat disaffected life might be easy, but deeper wounds require more self-searching to see if the relationship is salvageable, whether it is worth it or not. You can fix quite a lot of things, but even after that things aren’t the same, and this is particularly true in the case of a relationship. The way you look at someone may change little, if not much. Their touch may feel different. Their words may not carry the same weight. You must ask yourself, with those things changing, is it the same relationship it was? The answer is no, but whether that is what you want to live with is the bigger question.
We as women are tough but staying in a situation where you no longer have the peace that trust gives, and loyalty to you, can be self-defeating. Only you know your relationship, how deeply you love this person and if certain actions are ones you can skip. If you cannot get past certain things, it is okay to leave, because the most significant thing, we all tend to forget, is our happiness.
