A study found that 21 percent of individuals are in a non-monogamous relationship. That’s a comparatively high number, but it also means roughly 4 out of 5 people are only in a monogamous relationship. This means that for most people, a partner who sees the other person is cheating.
Suspecting cheating is never fun, but if you think it’s, you cannot ignore it. You deserve an answer about what really happened. Here are three possible ways to approach if you suspect your partner is being unfaithful:
talk to them
This is the first and most evident solution, but that doesn’t suggest it is going to be fun. You may be communicating well with your partner in general, but asking, “Hey, are you cheating on me?” never a fun topic to bring up. If you’ll overcome it, you must be confident and do it the right way.
Experts say you should not be confrontational or enter attack mode. After all, you just suspect something is going on right now. Ideally, you have already talked about your own definition of infidelity. If not, it is too late to have that conversation. If your partner thinks flirty texts are okay and you do not, that’s something you need to work on.
It’s also okay to ask things like why they’re mention someone else’s name Lots. If they simply got a new coworker they cannot stop talking about, ask what is wrong, but try not to sound accusatory. Their reaction can tell you something. If they laugh and come up with a proof that makes sense, that’s great. But if they get defensive or try to close down the conversation, that’s a potential warning sign.
Do detective work
You should only do this if you are ready to find something distasteful. Some people may talk to their partner and choose that, even if something is not right, they do not want to dig any deeper right now. It’s your relationship, so you must decide what you are willing to tolerate.
For others, however, trying to talk to their partner will only lead to more questions. Their anxiety may increase if it seems that their partner is becoming more withdrawn or withdrawn. At that time, you may decide to go for it caught a cheater using online tools. For example, maybe your partner says he is texting someone from work. Sure enough, the name on their phone said “Joey from Work”. 0
However, if you can get into your partner’s phone long enough to see the actual number, you should have the ability to run a reverse phone check. It might in fact belong to someone local, but it might also belong to a seemingly random woman living on the outskirts of town. If your partner is lying to you about who they’re talking to, then there is no telling what else they might be hiding.
Practice Self Care
You’ve done some digging and, while you haven’t any text explicitly indicating the affair, you can have some pretty incriminating stuff. That evidence will leave you with quite a lot of feelings. You may feel ugly or useless, or think that if you did things differently, your partner would never stray.
Such thoughts are natural, but that does not make them helpful. If your partner has a problem, they can speak about it with you rather than seeking comfort in someone else’s arms. A therapist can remind you of that. If therapy is not an option right now, try doing something else that makes you feel good. It could mean finally buying that sequined dress you have been eyeing for so long. That might mean going out for drinks with your friends and telling them everything. Better yet, buy the dress and wear it to drink.
However, one thing you should not do is try to start your own affair as revenge. Most likely, it will only make you feel worse. You cannot repair your relationship by further damaging it.
