First dates are stressful. Undeniably otherwise. Unless you have lost faith in the idea of dating and you are just agreeing to dates under pain, likelihood is you have become emotionally invested in these dates. We all have expectations about first dates. We want them to achieve success, for that person to be ‘the one’. Sadly, this does not occur very often, but nonetheless, we all walk out the door excitedly hoping this guy will be astonishing, hot, and ideal for us.
With so many to lose, it is no surprise that we get stressed before the first date — and often during the date itself. Nerves take hold and before we know it, we’re falling apart. You’ve read the tip to find a date. This article is a guide to help you prepare for a first date. We aim to cover the basics and be sure you do not mess up in the first five minutes. We cannot promise your date will be Mr. or Mrs. Right, but at the very least, the date should not be a disaster!
Review Date Place
Do you have a plan? Do you know where you’ll be going on the date? If not, find out. Imagine how torturous it would be if you showed up in tight jeans and your date had tickets to the theater.
Plan Outfit
As per the previous point, now is a good time to plan your outfit. It’s good manners to make an effort for a first date. If you cannot be bothered to shower and plan a nice outfit to wear, that’s telling your date that you do not care about them or yourself. Is that the impression you want to give?
Plan an outfit that fits the location of the date. If you are meeting for coffee, casual attire is okay. If the date involves dinner and a restaurant, take the opportunity to dress up. A nice dress, high heels, or a shirt and tie if you are a guy, are appropriate.
Choose clothes that make you comfy and suit your body type. Be careful not to go overboard with looking sexy. If you gave it your all on the first date, what’s there to look forward to on the second?
If unsure about your fashion sense or sense of style, seek advice from trusted friends before you leave the house.
Prepare Conversation Topics
Conversation normally the biggest point on a first date. It can get awkward when the conversation runs dry and you are sitting there wondering what to say next. To stop this from happening, ensure you become familiar with the person’s profile (if you have one) and have a list of topics you can discuss. Stick to safe topics like vacations, work, hobbies. Better to give a wide berth to previous relationships, toxic divorces, and contentious subjects.
Tell Family and Friends about the Date
Always tell someone where you’re going if it’s a first date. While the chances of your date being a psycho low, why take that risk?
Draft Escape Clauses
It’s all the time a good idea to have an escape clause. Not all dates are fun. Ask a friend to call or message you at a pre-agreed time. If the date goes badly, you can use the call as an excuse to leave early. Alternatively, comment on other places you should go if the date does not go well.
Try it and relax. This is just the first date! The world will not end if you do not get along.
