Great relationships are such an excellent thing to be a part of. The problem is, quite a lot of people feel like they were in the perfect relationship for a while, only to find out that it wasn’t that great. Most of us get a little bit of tunnel vision and look inside rose coloured glasses during a relationship, and it can be difficult to see the evident for others. With that in mind, here are some signs to look out for that could mean you (or a friend) are in a dangerous relationship.
You Feel Like You Have No Freedom
If you feel like you are at all times walking on eggshells and need to ask permission (or tell someone) before you do anything, you may be in a controlling and dangerous relationship. These people aren’t your parents and you haven’t got to tell them everything you do or where you are.
A relationship should not be controlling at all, you should still have all of your freedom. You should still feel like an individual, but have someone with you to support, encourage, and love you. Having freedom is a right and whoever takes it from you is not having your best interest in mind.
Gaslighting Occurs
Even although you may not have heard the actual term, there is a good chance you know what gaslighting is. Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse in which the abuser attempts to “plant seeds” of doubt in a person’s mind and make them question their own sanity or memory. This is commonly done in an try to manipulate or control other people.
Gaslighting can be terrifying to deal with, as a result, it is vital to know the warning signs and how to catch if someone is harassing you through gaslighting. An article entitled 50 Shades Of Gaslighting: Annoying Signs An Actor Is Twisting Your Reality does an excellent job of describing how difficult it’s to deal with gaslighting and how to identify whether it’s present or not.
Everything Always Feels Dramatic
While every relationship has its ups and downs, there is a difference between the occasional fight or dramatic disagreement and a relationship where everything seems completely dramatic. Some couples thrive on theatrics and drama and a few even addicted to relationship drama.
While they appear to have more passion and a better sex life, it is often not easy to follow, and these couples often fail as quickly as they start. While drama is not at all times bad, if there never appears to be a dull moment to chill or relax, it may be a sign you are in a bad relationship that is not going to last.
You Have To Defend Your SO From Friends or Family
As mentioned at the start, we tend to see our love interest in rose coloured glasses a lot. We tend to condone everything they do and not believe otherwise. Even if our family and friends try to warn us, we frequently ignore their warnings.
If you continually need to hold on to your relationship, it is a sign it isn’t healthy. Your family and friends most probably aren’t out to “get you” or anything, and are just paying attention to you. Standing up for a bad girlfriend can easily lead to losing friends or distancing yourself from family, which is never a good thing.
