Breaking up is not fun. They are part of dating – you’ll continue to break up with your partner until you do not when the partnership remains. So facing the end of a relationship or dating someone is a risk you must take when you put yourself and your heart out there. While breaking up with someone, particularly a sudden breakup, can be a real drag, it isn’t the most terrible event to deal with. Why?! There’s generally a really good reason why a bond broke up.
Here are four good reasons why breaking up abruptly is not the worst thing to occur to you:
They Have Different Values From Yours
In any relationship, whether it is romantic or platonic, you are at all times going to meet someone in person. It’s really kind of healthy to not just have people agree with you 100% of the time.
But there is a difference between disagreeing on a few minor things and having a essentially different approach to life. It’s not about the common interest, it is about shared values around family, tradition, spirituality, politics and finance.
If your ex did not support you in making healthy decisions for yourself, then it is best for him to stop sharing any imitating parts of your life with him. Partners are supposed to want the best for you, encouraging you to follow your heart.
They Don’t Treat You Right
A good partner is someone who makes himself available to you. If your ex cannot promise or commit and then follow through, then he isn’t treating you right.
You would not tolerate an unreliable friend frequently, so why would you let the person you are dating treat you that way? They are certainly not making you or the relationship a precedence.
In a relationship, your partner’s only goal is not to make you feel good. But the relationship should not make you feel bad about yourself.
A healthy bond is all about spending time together someone you respect and who respects yousomeone you enjoy spending time with, someone who takes pride in your relationship.
If you cannot tick those boxes, then the relationship better be over!
They Are In An Active Addiction
Whether it is a problem with alcohol, drugs, gambling, shopping, sex, or an eating disorder, addiction makes it impossible to have an genuine relationship with someone.
If they are not in recovery, someone with an active addiction prioritizes their drug of choice and you will never matter—no matter what they tell you. There is a really fine line between dealing with problematic individuals, and being emotionally abused by them.
If someone is out and partying, or even having a drinking problem, restoring trust can take plenty of time — plenty of time you possibly do not have.
You cannot cure someone with an addiction, they need to seek help and pursue health for themselves. Maybe once they’ve some clean time and work on being honest and nice, then there’s an opportunity to reunite. Until they come to their senses, you can never really connect with them.
They are jealous
Adult relationships are based on trust. This means that partners can honestly share their most intimate selves.
It also means that they can be independent from their partners without arousing suspicion. If your ex does not trust you, doubts your intentions with other people and/or will check on you to be sure you are where you say you are – lucky you are out.
Jealousy is not about love or affection, that’s about power and insecurity. It does not matter what you do or say to prove your commitment – it’s your ex’s problem and your inability to trust.
You will not be capable to prove your loyalty to them, so it is best not to waste any more time.
Healing after a breakup takes time. During the process, you should reflect on what you learned with your ex. There will be positive memories and lessons that you’re going to take away.
It’s important to recognize why the relationship did not work out – how you contributed to it and what was your ex’s role. If you can identify the reasons the relationship ended, it will aid you in healing and help you make healthier romantic decisions in the future.
