If you have just started a new relationship, likelihood is you do not want to make the same mistakes you made in previous relationships. Falling in love is scary. It leaves us open to being hurt, makes us vulnerable and can stop us from acting rationally. We want to find that one perfect healthy relationship that we are committed to for the rest of our lives. However, finding your own happy place in a relationship can’t be ignored. Being in a healthy relationship means taking care of yourself first and foremost. See how you can maintain a healthy relationship.
Don’t Choke
Even if you are fully smitten by your new boyfriend, you should not make him feel cramped. Let them have their own space the same way you want your own. It’s healthy to have groups of friends, hobbies, and alone time. Being with one another twenty four seven may look like a dream at first, but it soon gets tiring. Date, enjoy getting to know one another and let your relationship develop organically. It’s not healthy to demand to know where your partner is at all times, to move in together after two weeks and to admit your eternal love after a month.
Being sticky is unattractive. You need to give one another some breathing room. Learn how to break the cycle of codependency otherwise, you run the risk of becoming part of a harmful relationship that eats away at your self-confidence and self-worth.
Trust
In any relationship you need a deep level of trust. Check your partner’s phone since you have an inkling that they’re cheating on you, you should ring the alarm bells. The indisputable fact that you feel that way shows that you do not trust your relationship. If your partner is providing you with reasons not to trust them, it is time to end it. Move on and find solace in the respect you have for yourself. Lack of trust relationship it is usually one-sided and can result in abuse of a lesser partner. Don’t let yourself become this person.
Be independent
Just because you are in a relationship does not matter that you cannot be independent. Even when you are married, you can still go out with friends once a week to see a movie, meet with your family individually, and go to martial arts class alone. You haven’t got to be accompanied everywhere by your partner. Being your own person, making your own money, and having your own job is empowering. You haven’t got to be a housewife and succumb to pocket money from your partner. This is 1950s society, not twenty-first century equality. Healthy relationships are based on love and respect.
Forget worrying about the perfect relationship, and focus on yourself in your newfound romance. You need self-respect and confidence to say when something is not working. Talk to your partner and communicate. Be yourself and enjoy the honeymoon period of your new relationship.
