I think that almost all men reading need little convincing that pursuing multiple romantic attachments is certainly the way to go. But I believe it is very important for us to examine the reasons because it will at least justify our behavior and for those people who want to settle down with that special someone, it is even more important that you understand and follow the guidelines in this article. .
If you are chasing lots of girls, one or two rejections is not a big deal. If I’m actively pursuing 10 girls at the same time and two of them fall short, I have a fantastic place to refocus my attention: 8 other charming prospects. In fact, if you see your failure as a learning experience, you can take whatever you may have learned from each side and instantly apply those lessons to your next interaction. The point is, failure can be fun and thrilling! (Though clearly that should not be your goal)
There’s an old joke that has at all times stuck with me: How did you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice! Practice makes perfect. ‘Game’ is not something that people are born with. It consists of many skill sets that can be learned and therefore requires a certain dedication. The more women you chase, the more opportunities you will must make connections between situations and sometimes have a revelation or two. Back when I was a child, I played the piano and made sure I had an hour every day to practice the scales. Now I set aside an hour or two a day to text and call my prospects. And in the evenings I’m out with lots of them ‘practicing’ live. The bottom line is, the more women you actively pursue, the more practice you’ll get and the faster you’ll progress.
Expanding on the practice is this variation: Having lots of girls in your sights encourages you to experiment and take risks with them. I cannot overemphasize how important this idea is. Knowing that we have a ‘reserve’ can trigger us to take risks we would normally have hesitated to take. We can use this newfound freedom to try new techniques. We can use it to actually follow our impulses rather than blocking them.
All of the most vital discoveries and breakthroughs I have made are a direct result of this concept. You can read about pick-ups and consider pick-ups as much as you want, but if you are not really out there taking risks, you are not going to improve at all. And if you are primarily focused on one girl at a time, there is no way you can adopt this important mindset.
And perhaps the most vital reason for having multiple prospects is this: your behavior and energy will change for the better without even thinking about it. When you consider it, we consciously put ourselves in the same shoes as highly valued women. Women like this have enough men after them that they cannot even stay organized and flake by default most of the time. This is among the reasons I deliberately schedule lots of my ‘dates’ with different women on the same night. (An idea I’m expanding on in my upcoming product ‘No Flakes’) Suddenly the traditional roles are reversed and I’m the one juggling and rescheduling with them. There is a change in your energy; it’s free (or freer) from any hint of despair or need. The more prospects you have, the less anxiety you’ll have over any of them. And since women are generally more intuitive than men, they will certainly pick up on this.
In other words, the more women I played with, the better my success rate with them would be. So for guys who say, “No, I just want to find one girl for me!” I’d say in response: You’ll have a far better chance of finding him if you explore lots of options, and he’ll most likely be far more receptive to you because of the positive changes in your behavior that result from having those choices.
Have a good time,
