Breaking up is painful.
I know this from my own experience. In fact, I still remember the day I broke up with my ex-boyfriend. The tears, the conjectures, the shattered dreams… it was terrible.
I feel like a complete failure. We have been together for nearly four years. We sleep in the same bed, eat at the same table and have the same friends. Suddenly, everything fell apart. At that moment I wondered if I made the biggest mistake of my life.
Today, I’m in a relationship with the lady of my dreams. Our relationship is better, healthier, and more fulfilling than anything I’ve ever experienced before. He’s the one. I know it and he knows it. The interesting thing is I never would have met him if I hadn’t failed in my previous relationship. That’s why I feel so blessed.
You may be in the same situation. Maybe you are in an unsatisfactory relationship and you are afraid of failing at it. That’s why you are holding on to something you must let go of. Or maybe you just broke up with your partner and you feel like the biggest loser on the planet.
I feel that way. What I want you to know is that the guilt, negative feelings, and guilt that torments you are utterly unnecessary. You did not fail. In fact, you do the exact opposite.
What It Really Means to Fail in a Relationship
Portraying the end of a relationship as a failure is the most self-destructive thing you can do. But more than that. It’s wrong because you do not fail at everything. That definition of failure described it as an absence of success.
Is it really less successful when you end something you should not? Is it really less successful when you walk away from someone who is not good for you? No, no. It is the perfect thing you can do for yourself and for your happiness.
Failing in a relationship means nothing more than accepting that something that should have worked did not work. It’s a form of success that almost all people won’t ever experience, which is pretty sad. It will fail if you stay with someone who is bad for you. It will be a failure if you keep holding on to something you should not be holding on to.
Every Blessing Has a Reason
There is at all times a reason why a relationship ends. It does not matter if it is your fault, your partner’s fault, or if you both made a mistake… there’s at all times a reason. And if there is a reason to end it, you must end it.
Please correct me if I’m wrong, but you possibly do not want to stay in a relationship with someone who cheats on you, lies, and treats you as if you do not exist. Your partner abuses you? You have the right to leave and no, this does not set you off.
You will only fail if you stay with someone who does not make you happy or if you end a satisfying relationship for no reason. The first choice can lead to a miserable life. There is no second option. Why? Because there’s at all times a reason and so long as you have a reason to move on, you must move on.
Your life is too precious to be wasted
If you have a reason to move, you must move. I actually meant it. Your life is too precious to waste. And yes, spending another week, month, year, or decade with someone you should not be with is the definition of wasting your time.
Just think. You have about 80 years on this planet. It does not matter if you’re 20, 40 or 60 years old, every moment is precious. Or do you actually want to be on your deathbed, look back on your lifeand regret that you stayed in an unfulfilling relationship?
You would not believe how many people I know who spent years of their life with someone they did not love and did not like. It’s sad and the only reason these people fail is because they do not allow themselves to “fail” in a relationship that does not make them happy.
Failing Is Learning
There are other reasons why ending an unhappy relationship could be your greatest blessing. The process of breaking up and thinking about reasons why it did not work out can be a fantastic opportunity to grow as a person.
I know this is true. You can believe me when I say that I did not make the same mistake in my current relationship that I made years ago with my ex-boyfriend. I learned from my experience and you can do the same.
Many people do not know this but are in a relationship is a skill you can and should learn. Unfortunately, most people do not want to learn. Their ego and pride don’t allow them to reflect on the past. Don’t make this mistake. Otherwise, your next relationship will end the same way.
It Gives You a Chance to Meet the Right Partner
You might not think it is possible, but the next person you date might be the love of your life. I hope you now understand why “failing” in a relationship is such a blessing.
This gives you the opportunity to meet the right person for you. I took this opportunity and you cannot believe how grateful I’m that I met the love of my life after a breakup. I know that you can experience the same thing.
