Almost 60% of divorced people in a recent poll said that communication problems were one of the main issues that led to their divorce.
It’s normal in any relationship, whether you are married or not, to have communication problems every now and then. You are an imperfect human and you can only make the better of what you know.
But if it becomes the norm, then it is a serious issue that you need to address sooner rather than later. And better communication and a deeper connection 100% possible with a little help.
Here are some tips to get you started on the way to solving your relationship problems.
Think Before You Speak (But Always Speak)
There is an old saying, “never go to bed angry”. But there’s lots of wisdom in taking the time to process your feelings before speaking so you do not say something you regret.
Words that humiliate and belittle your partner are much easier to forgive and forget when you do not say them at all.
But it is important to speak your truth and share your deepest thoughts and feelings with your partner. Relationships require total honesty. Keeping silent about something important will breed resentment.
And, it is also important for you to give your partner time to speak the reality too. If you both learn to listen better, you are well on your way to solving your communication problems.
Learn How to Apologize and Mean It
Most people do not understand how to apologize. They think that the “right” person does not need to apologize.
But what if you both of them think you are right in the scenario?
The best relationship advice anyone can provide you with is to remember that your relationship is more important than being right. Apologize, mean it, and move on with your life without holding a grudge.
Some people’s love language is words of affirmation. Quite a lot of relationship problems stem from not speaking each other’s love languages and telling them what they need to hear to feel loved.
You can overcome your relationship problems by stepping up for your partner. Leave notes for them in their car, cheer them up when they’ve a bad day, and praise them when they try too.
You can even read books and listen to podcasts on how to solve your communication problems too.
Try Couples Counseling
Some couples just do not have the tools to fix their communication problems and that is 100% okay. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. Seeking a couples counselor is not a failure, it’s a really brave thing to do.
You can even visit a counselor who understands your beliefs and/or lifestyle. For example, you can try LGBTQ couples counseling or counseling Muslim couples.
Start Solving Your Communication Problems Today
Solving your communication problems will take time and commitment. But the relationship you have with your partner has the potential to be the deepest, most loving, and rewarding relationship of your life.
It’s worth fighting for.
Need more advice to guide you through your problem? Check out our other articles on relationships for plenty of helpful tips!